Sunday, January 18, 2009

Secrets To Getting Your Woman To Want To Have Sex with You All The Time

Physically, during this phase, her body is cooling down and
returning to her normal, un-aroused state.

Her breast size, clitoris, inner and outer lips return to
normal size, and the reddish “sex flush” is starting to go
away…this is Resolution.

Psychologically she’s coming down to her normal
mindset…but…it’s in her mind where you “seal the deal” and
guarantee that she’ll be wanting more of you in the future.
Too many men get so caught up in the performance review of
how many times (and how hard) she came that they lose sight
of one of the most critical phase of a woman’s sexual
response – Reflection.

And, for any of you that may believe otherwise – this isn’t
an elective, its core curriculum. Women crave and require
it. And men that understand this, and take advantage of it,
have discovered a secret that we touched upon earlier in
this book:

The pleasure and satisfaction during one sexual experience
doesn’t just end after the point of orgasm. Smart lovers
know that it can be continued on and lead to the seduction
phase of your NEXT intimate encounter.

If, during the period after sex, the experience didn’t seem
to offer her pleasure and satisfaction, she may not even
desire to give you the chance for a “rematch”…in other
words, if the sex wasn’t good for her both physically and
psychologically, there’s no reason for her to want to have
sex next time around.

To a woman, it’s during the space of time after you’ve cum
that shows what you’re all about – whether you’re
considerate, compassionate, intimate or romantic, or if
you’re just a big selfish lug who, minutes after an orgasm,
is already asleep and snoring.
What Are My Options?

When it comes to your post-climax activities, you’ve got
about three ready options, each with their own consequences
and rewards. Admittedly, each of these options has their
own time and place, but when it comes to deciding which
option you’ll choose to be your “norm”, consider carefully…

1. Rolling Over and Going to Sleep

A tempting option, I know – especially if you’ve spent the
last hour heroically tending to her sexual needs. But,
before you roll over and sleep, you’d better weigh your
options…

Rewards: Well, you get some sleep, and some
relaxation, but that’s about it. Sure, there are times
when it’s in order. After a real marathon, if you’re
both spent, it can be ideal. But even when you do go
this route, try to snuggle up a bit (if only for a few
minutes) before you start really snoozing.

Consequences: When it comes to your lover, this is
about the second worst route you can go. You
definitely do NOT want to make this your normal
routine. If you do, you’ll either lose her respect or
her attentions.

2. Getting Up And Doing Something Else

Another option, though perhaps not as tempting as a good
nap, is running off to “seize the day” within moments of
your orgasm. To be fair, this response is associated with
the way our chemicals and hormones react after we orgasm.

Once we cum, we’re finally able to STOP thinking about sex
and get back to the more mundane things in life. And though
it may help you get your goals accomplished, she’ll more
than likely be left less than pleased.

Rewards: The ego boost of making your lover cum, added
to the satisfaction of your own orgasm can be
fantastic fuel to get out there and “Get ‘er done!”
You’ll have a little extra bounce to your step and
your mood will be greatly improved, but maybe not
hers…
Consequences: Remember how I said that the last
option, falling asleep, was the second worst option?
Well, as far as your lover is concerned, this one is
THE worst option.

Why? Because to some women, hopping right up, getting
dressing and running off can make them feel less like
lovers and more like a mere “booty call.” Sure, if both of
you already know that you’ve got plans for the day, or
you’re running late for an appointment, you can let it
slide. But, otherwise, for your sake, choose one of the
llowing two options. fo

3. After Play

Want your lover to stay madly and completely in love with
you?

Then don’t scrimp when it comes to what you do AFTER sex!
To a woman, what you do after sex really shows her what
you’re all about. The little things give her the small
indications about what kind of man you are (and what she
thinks you think about her).

Take the time for a little “after play” and enjoy your
after-glow. You’d be amazed what an extra fifteen minutes
can accomplish, so don’t take this opportunity for granted.
So, get ready to snuggle up, share a few kisses and spend a
little time talking, smiling and touching together.

This allows you to stay “connected” and strength the
emotional bonds that lead to a healthy relationship –
sexual, emotional and otherwise.

Tapping into this, and giving her the attention and respect
she deserves means that you’ll have the key to making her
want (and want to give) more sex the next time around.

Simply cuddling, talking, and “being” with her physically
and emotionally after love making…combined with the fact
that she thinks you’re responsible for her orgasms is like
making little deposits in the “Desire” account.

The better she feels about her sexual experience with you
this time, will create more desire to be with you next
time.
So remember that psychologically during this stage, you’ll
want to reinforce the positive sexual experience she just
had, so when the cycle loops back into “Desire”, she’ll be
thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want
sex more often.

Not a bad deal for an extra 15 minutes of time, don’t you
think?

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