More On Orgasms

You’ve set up a relaxing atmosphere, gave her a massage,
labial massage, oral sex, G-spot, blended…and taken her to
at least 3 orgasms.

Since we’ve already touched on the subject of how-to
techniques to bring a woman to an orgasm in the previous
chapter, this chapter will focus on some of the finer
details of the pre-orgasm, and the orgasm.

Pre-Orgasm: What To Expect, And What To Do

Just moments before she has an orgasm, you’ll notice that
her breathing gets deeper, she starts sweating, vagina
contracts more often, and her body begins to tense up and
relax.

This is the transition from the Plateau stage, where you’re
building up the sexual tension, to the Orgasm, where she’s
about to release the tension.

The “Pre-Orgasm” is where, I believe, most people reach.
They’ve built up the sexual tension to the point of where
she’s on the brink of having an orgasm…but all of a sudden,
it’s gone!

Here are some very important points to remember to
guarantee that she’ll successfully have an orgasm:

Maintain Stimulation!

Whatever you’re doing up until this point, hold steady and
maintain what you’re doing…don’t change! Maintain contact,
speed, rhythm, pressure etc.

Often times couples will either go faster, slower, or stop
altogether when she’s close to having an orgasm. But…the
trick that if it’s working already, don’t change a thing.
The orgasm will fall into place if you maintain what has
been working so far.
Don’t Change Positions!

Whether you’re performing oral sex on her, fingering, or
having intercourse, during the time right before an orgasm
she might be tempted to move. Don’t let her!

What you’re doing is literally overwhelming her with
physical pleasure. It’s almost like there’s TOO much
sexual tension injected into her, and she wants to release
it somehow. What you want is the tension to be released as
an orgasm, but sometimes, women might squirm, and move
around.

If she moves to a different position, whatever it is you’re
doing won’t feel as good sexually. This build up of sexual
tension and pleasure has stopped, and she’ll no longer feel
overwhelmed by physical pleasure…but…this is not what you
(or what she) wants! You want to drive her over the edge!

Mindset-She Has to Let Go

When you know that she’s very close to having an orgasm,
you need to encourage her that it’s okay to just let go,
and not to trap those feelings inside.

It might even be the case that she’s afraid of urinating
from G-spot stimulation (more on this below). If this is
so, she’ll tense up as if she was holding in her urine, and
she’ll likely not be able to experience an orgasm. She has
to be relaxed, and feel comfortable even if she does expel
a little bit of fluid from her body (it’s not urine
though!)

Make Sure She’s Not Holding Her Breath

Finally, do a quick check to make sure that she’s not
holding her breath. She’s got to breathe in order to cum.
Though she might not realize it, by holding her breath,
she’s inadvertently holding back her orgasm. If you notice
that holding her breath is habitual, you might want to
ntly coach her to take in a few slow, deep breaths.