One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too
soon. It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not
be ready yet.
For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly. Men
basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and we’re done.
Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come
to a point of orgasm.
With each of the stages of sexual response (you’ll find out
about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the
stimulation is increased.
Sunday, February 1, 2009
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Anticipation and Tension
Anticipation (otherwise known as “teasing” and
“excitement”) is a powerful and effective tool to use.
In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques,
you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix.
Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater
chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the
physical pleasure she’s experiencing.
And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time
you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.
The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of
an orgasm).
The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the
areas surround the main “target” before you actually hit
the target.
For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs,
buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina.
While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter
and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move
onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing
within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.
A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her,
it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be
your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation
at the right pace.
“excitement”) is a powerful and effective tool to use.
In order to multiply the effects of your sexual techniques,
you’ll have to add anticipation into the mix.
Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater
chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the
physical pleasure she’s experiencing.
And…while you’re building up anticipation, at the same time
you’re cranking up sexual tension as well.
The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of
an orgasm).
The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the
areas surround the main “target” before you actually hit
the target.
For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs,
buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina.
While you’re rubbing those body parts, she’s getting wetter
and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move
onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing
within her and at some point, it’ll have to be released.
A note: when you’re building up the anticipation in her,
it’s going to build up in you as well! It’s going to be
your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation
at the right pace.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Relaxation
A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm.
If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how
her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the
case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be
tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.
Your job?
To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if
only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations.
Your lover must be totally and completely
relaxed and free from tension.
The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!
If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how
her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the
case may be, she’s not going to be relaxed. She’ll be
tensed, and her body won’t allow her to release an orgasm.
Your job?
To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if
only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations.
Your lover must be totally and completely
relaxed and free from tension.
The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!
Thursday, January 29, 2009
Give Before You Receive
Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to
make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.
Why?
It shows that:
1) You have control of your sexual desires
2) She’ll be in a more “ready” state to have an orgasm
while having intercourse, and
3) After she has an orgasm, she'll be ready and
willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!
Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job
she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing
an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the
blow job she gives you after she RECIEVES an orgasm.
Sex goes the same too...
Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don't
believe me.
make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.
Why?
It shows that:
1) You have control of your sexual desires
2) She’ll be in a more “ready” state to have an orgasm
while having intercourse, and
3) After she has an orgasm, she'll be ready and
willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!
Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job
she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing
an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the
blow job she gives you after she RECIEVES an orgasm.
Sex goes the same too...
Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don't
believe me.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Tips for the Woman in Your Life
Now I’d like to take a few moments to address the special
woman in your life. You can invite her over to the screen,
print out the page and tuck it into her briefcase or bring
it up in your next sexual conversation…
1. Allow yourself to let go. Don’t feel selfish or
sluttish; distracted or unworthy. Don’t tame or subdue
yourself. Don’t hold anything back!
2. Don’t feel afraid to get a little verbal. Quit biting
your tongue or holding your breath. Let go and moan,
groan or sigh if you want to. Don’t force it or get
too theatrical, but the man in your life will love to
hear the sounds of your pleasure escaping your lips.
3. If you find yourself constantly stressing over hygiene
issues like scent or taste or cleanliness, try
incorporating a bath or shower early on in your
schedule to prepare and improve your comfort level.
Even better if you can invite him to join you!
4. Strive to gain greater comfort with your body and what
turns you on. Take initiative to learn what really
drives you insane with desire and then learn to
communicate those hot buttons to the man in your bed.
What do you fantasize about? What really turns you on?
5. Learn to believe your lover when he tells you he loves
to pleasure you and make you cum – he means it! And
he’s also telling you the truth when he swears up and
down that he loves to eat your pussy! There are few
things in this world that will give a man a sense of
accomplishment or satisfaction than making the woman
he cares about cum…
woman in your life. You can invite her over to the screen,
print out the page and tuck it into her briefcase or bring
it up in your next sexual conversation…
1. Allow yourself to let go. Don’t feel selfish or
sluttish; distracted or unworthy. Don’t tame or subdue
yourself. Don’t hold anything back!
2. Don’t feel afraid to get a little verbal. Quit biting
your tongue or holding your breath. Let go and moan,
groan or sigh if you want to. Don’t force it or get
too theatrical, but the man in your life will love to
hear the sounds of your pleasure escaping your lips.
3. If you find yourself constantly stressing over hygiene
issues like scent or taste or cleanliness, try
incorporating a bath or shower early on in your
schedule to prepare and improve your comfort level.
Even better if you can invite him to join you!
4. Strive to gain greater comfort with your body and what
turns you on. Take initiative to learn what really
drives you insane with desire and then learn to
communicate those hot buttons to the man in your bed.
What do you fantasize about? What really turns you on?
5. Learn to believe your lover when he tells you he loves
to pleasure you and make you cum – he means it! And
he’s also telling you the truth when he swears up and
down that he loves to eat your pussy! There are few
things in this world that will give a man a sense of
accomplishment or satisfaction than making the woman
he cares about cum…
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
The Oxytocin Factor
Oxytocin is one of many chemicals that play a significant
role in orgasm and sexual response. It’s a hormone that is
secreted by the pituitary gland and cases muscle
contractions and sensitizes the nerves. While oxytocin
plays a part in our orgasms too, it’s believed that it’s
even more important in a woman’s sexual pleasure.
Not only does this hormone play a large part in the
contractions that wrack a woman’s womb and vaginal walls
when she cums, research has shown that increased oxytocin
production in a woman contributes to more powerful, intense
orgasms.
Oxytocin also plays an important part of a woman’s
emotional state and stimulates emotional pleasure and
feelings of intimacy. It’s often referred to as the
“cuddling hormone” because it’s this chemical that
initiates feelings of connection, bonding and intimacy with
your lover.
Stronger orgasms and emotional fulfillment – it’s no
surprise why this chemical hormone is so vital to a woman’s
healthy sexual response!
In later chapters you’ll discover exactly how to release
this chemical to make her feel more connected to you, and
want to have sex with you more often.
role in orgasm and sexual response. It’s a hormone that is
secreted by the pituitary gland and cases muscle
contractions and sensitizes the nerves. While oxytocin
plays a part in our orgasms too, it’s believed that it’s
even more important in a woman’s sexual pleasure.
Not only does this hormone play a large part in the
contractions that wrack a woman’s womb and vaginal walls
when she cums, research has shown that increased oxytocin
production in a woman contributes to more powerful, intense
orgasms.
Oxytocin also plays an important part of a woman’s
emotional state and stimulates emotional pleasure and
feelings of intimacy. It’s often referred to as the
“cuddling hormone” because it’s this chemical that
initiates feelings of connection, bonding and intimacy with
your lover.
Stronger orgasms and emotional fulfillment – it’s no
surprise why this chemical hormone is so vital to a woman’s
healthy sexual response!
In later chapters you’ll discover exactly how to release
this chemical to make her feel more connected to you, and
want to have sex with you more often.
Monday, January 26, 2009
Keys to Success in Action
I’m providing you with quite a bit of information. It’s all
well and good if you can read and remember the techniques
and concepts, but if you don’t apply them, you might as
well not have wasted your time or money on this book.
Make a solid commitment to not only read this book, but to
put the principles I share with you into practice in your
every day sex life.
Team up with your lover and let her know what you’re
reading up on. Ask her to work with you and convince her to
agree to offer you honest feedback on the new things you’ll
be trying out.
Believe me - she’ll thank you for it later!
well and good if you can read and remember the techniques
and concepts, but if you don’t apply them, you might as
well not have wasted your time or money on this book.
Make a solid commitment to not only read this book, but to
put the principles I share with you into practice in your
every day sex life.
Team up with your lover and let her know what you’re
reading up on. Ask her to work with you and convince her to
agree to offer you honest feedback on the new things you’ll
be trying out.
Believe me - she’ll thank you for it later!
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